Forget Paris

Love is in the air and Paris is the place you would think of. Why not? It's the most romantic city in the world. For Mickey Gordon, it definitely was romantic in Paris. It all start when he needed to bury his father in Paris and the airline he was taking, lost his father. Ellen Andrews was tasked to help Mickey find his father's casket. That was where the spark all started for Mickey. The story soon unfolded into them getting married and the challenges they had to face.

It is interesting at different stages Mickey and Ellen showed types of love from Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg, 1986) and according to SternBerg (1986), Love is made up of 3 component which are intimacy, Commitment and passion. The combination of different component form different types of love. For example, as Mickey and Ellen first dated in Paris, It definitely showed romantic love where both of them showed passion and intimacy but they have no commitment toward each other. At the beginning of their marriage, they developed their relationship into consummate love as a commitment was established between them. As their relationship went to a bumpy stage, it drop from there are became Empty Love where only holding them was by commitment.

Although at the end, they made up and went back together to consummate love, it is interesting to me that we can observe the dynamics of relationship to different stages through time and how well they handle their relationship.  After the movie, it got me thinking, how a couple can maintain a relationship for many years as biologically human ancestor was polyamory in nature because having different partners increases chances of having offspring. It is amazing from a evolutionary psychology point of view that humans evolved from a polyamory to a monogamy practices via marriage. I think monogamy keeps the family small and things simple for family issues and origins where if a crisis happened in a polygamy family, it would be very difficult for an individual to handle as well and the problem with jealousy from the partner.

The movie was enjoyable and quite witty at times. I enjoyed it very much and the movie really gave me something to think about love.

References

Sternberg, R. (1986). A triangular theory of love. Psychological Review, 93(2), 119-135. http://dx.doi.org/10.1037//0033-295x.93.2.119